Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Practical steps -How To Keep Going When All You want To Do Is Quit

Excerpts from www.entrepreneurmag.co.za , with additional input from me…

  • Get out of your negative space- Leave where and when that feeling sets in for a place you feel relaxed and un-pressured. Think of somewhere you can go, or someone you can be with to lift your spirit-a good distraction.
  • Keep yourself busy- "An idle hand, they say is the devil's workshop". Get busy with something different. Do activities that you enjoy, and which takes your mind off worries. Develop a hobby, if you do not have one already. You'd be surprised how therapeutic it can be.
  • Don't hide from the people you know- This may be a tough choice, but avoiding the people you know doesn't send your problems away. Rather, face them and let that be the motivation you need to not quit. Don't be invisible. If you want to carry on, your presence must be felt. Not everyone wants to see your downfall, there are still some good people out there. So don't throw away the baby with the bath water.
  • Break your goal into small achievable objectives- It makes it easy to notice your success. Afterall, they do say great things start from small beginnings. Don't be too proud to start small.
  • Avoid feeling guilty-Guilt cannot undo what's already been done. It is a distraction you do not need. Learn from your mistakes and move on and work towards the future. So keep moving.
  • Remember why you started- Did you have a passion for what you were doing? Was the choice circumstantial? Was it just for financial gain? If you can answer these questions honestly, then you're on your way to bouncing back.
  • Keep your families and friends around- Do not buy into the cliché of "Trust no one". You've got to trust someone at some point. If you avoid your families and friends, who then would you surround yourself with? They are the ones who will stand by you through the dark times, and remain with you when the good times return. You may as well keep them around for both seasons.


 


 


 

<<School-Of-H*a*r*d-K*n*o*c*k*s>>Truth may be bitter, but needs to be told-{Words-That-Bite-Series}

We usually blame people under whose care we were trained and modelled, for our troubles or wrong turns in life. But here's the harsh, candid truth- there's an expiry date for blaming anyone for your troubles. You cannot blame your parents for life, if they failed to raise you well. You cannot blame your guardians and or anyone who was supposed to look after you till adulthood and beyond. If you're old enough to comprehend what am saying, then you're old enough to make your own life choices. You can become a better person from how you were born, where you were raised and who raised you-the onus is on YOU! Take responsibility for your decisions and actions. Take charge of your life. Move past your 'past'...Don't stay still, keep moving! -BMF

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

What am passionate about…

I can't call it a 'Writer's block' because I haven't really got started. There are a few things I enjoy doing and a few am passionate about. I enjoy hair making, I find it relaxing (when my two girls cooperate, that is). I love to sew (if only I knew how to sew properly) and I've resolved to learn the basics when I can really spare the time. I enjoy crocheting (the story of my crochet is same as the sewing) But don't get me wrong, I've tried my hands on a few things, the simple and uncomplicated ones. I've managed to sew a number of casual wears for everyone in the house, except the newest ten month old addition to the family. From simple gowns to dresses…and I can mend almost anything that can go under the sewing machine. I've always had a skill for stitching and mending clothes by hand needle, for as long as I can recall. If I were not stubborn and in denial of my femininity, I'd have been earning money from sewing. But I think that's actually the problem- I do not intend to do it as a profession or as a means of making money. To me, it's just a hobby, like hair braiding, like writing (Ok, maybe not writing because that's actually one skill I certainly want to earn five figures (or more from-wink). There's something about sewing I feel that I haven't been able to put into words. It's just the way I like watching home make-over shows, taking intense interest in the decoration, seeing the latest technology, being fascinated by kitchen designs, admiring the space and how there's room for everything- Oh! my, I confess, I'm looking forward to my dream home sometime in the future, God willing. So what am just trying to say is that, I love that aspect of home, and the building, and how everything just takes shape from a bare land to something you can actually call a 'home'. Fascinating! But inspite all these, I cannot consider my 'future' career in Interior designs, or construction and what have you. I just enjoy watching and it helps me bring my own dream home alive…that's all.

Something I would really love to do but haven't got the opportunity is volunteering. I cannot erase the image of me volunteering off my head. It just never leaves. And I've always felt that way since I was young, as a teenager.

Thursday, October 16, 2014

The Truth is Bitter,But Needs To Be Told-*Words That bite series* (ctd).

16.10.2014
School of H^A^R^D K"N"O"C"K"S>>>

We usually blame people under who's care we were trained and modelled, for our troubles or wrong turns in life. But here's the harsh, candid truth- there's an expiry date for blaming anyone for your troubles. You cannot blame your parents for life, if they failed to raise you well. You cannot blame your guardians and or anyone who was supposed to look after you till adulthood and beyond. If you're old enough to comprehend what am saying, then you're old enough to make your own life choices. You can become a better person from how you were born, where you were raised and who raised you-the onus is on YOU!Take responsibility for your decisions and actions.Take charge of your life.
Move past your 'past'...Don't stay still,keep moving! -BMF



Tuesday, October 14, 2014

still on the random thoughts...thinkingOutLoud!

I multi-task,very much so.But, there are certain things I'd rather not mix together. I consciously would not mix serious studying with anything not so important-such as my hobbies. But,writing makes me break this unwritten rule. Here's my reason-these thoughts are over-ridden by other thoughts if I put off writing when the thoughts are flowing,just like it did today. Sometimes too, I let go if it's one of those thoughts that reoccurs. For obvious reasons, to me at least; I'm not excited about the fact that am writing my final exams. At least, not yet. I have had a huge struggle with my studies this entire session.It hasn't been the easiest of times to stay focused.Like everything else, studying has been demanding,so has playing the role of a mother, a wife,a serious student;amongst other minor yet equally vital roles. The reality is-it can't be easy studying, mixing studies with marital duties,as an open distant learner...One needs to stay focused even though one is distracted.You have to keep going when forging ahead isn't the easiest option. It remains your "best" option. Your goal has to remain imprinted on your mind every single breath you take.I had to continually flash back and remember how far I've come. And then remind myself that, the tougher times are actually behind me-I've done tougher modules and managed to pass them once. This is a feat that didn't come by chance, many sacrifices had to be made; and thankfully it paid off. This past semester in particular had been a trying one-I passed when I expected to fail. This was affirmed by my very low grades-the lowest in the entire period I've spent studying this course. But I'm a firm believer in the saying of winners not being quitters. All I want now is to pass and not have to repeat any of the four modules am writing exams on this final semester. And look ahead towards obtaining my First Degree-after a decade and half of aiming for that qualification. It's been a long hurdle, a high mountain that seemed insurmountable-but am at the end. Am indeed grateful for being kept alive to recount and reminisce. On my finger tips,I can count the number of people who have passed away, whom I knew directly. And that's life,when a journey ends for some,others have to keep moving...and so the journey continues!I do not take life for granted,I am determined to make the best of the time I've got, to make a positive difference in the world, in my own little way-by words, by actions, and by all means at my disposal...one good deed at a time...so help me God!!! 

RandomThoughtsOnWordsThatBite-ThinkingOutLoud!

I can't really call it 'bad timing'...it's just a minor distraction,but a good one. I haven't had an inspiration backed by timeous willingness to write in a long time. And so today,in the middle of my revision (am writing my final exams...spell HECTIC!), I got inspired to put down a few thoughts. I've had a few of those "Words that bite" for sometime now, but never got around to putting any of it down until today.So,here are a few of my "Random thoughts,thinking out loud, Words that bite"!!!HAPPY reading...stay inspired!

14-10-2014
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO AGREE WITH EVERYTHING YOU SEE,HEAR OR READ.SIFT THE SHAFTS FROM THE GRAINS AND TAKE YOUR PICK!BMF
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My submission on 'dependence' is this: Being human = 'being fallible'. So expect not much from 'anyone'.Willingly or not,disappointments will happen. So rather than HATE that fellow,accept it as one of humans' many flaws.Let your dependence rest alone with your Creator...#Life'sRealities!BMF
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One of life's many lessons:Believe it or not,every single one of us has got his/her own battle.We fight different battles because life is made up of opposites. You can see what you think is 'perfect'. Do not be caught-up with illusions and deslusions...nothing is EXACTLY as it seems...there's more than meets the eyes!BMF
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Remember that trust is reciprocal. When you're entrusted with a secret,or chosen as a confidant,it means that person believes in your dignity. Do not downgrade yourself from that altitude by being unreliable!BMF
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If you've ever made a mistake, then you'd understand human's imperfection. Forgiveness is not an easy route, but you need to move on and cleanse yourself of that dark spot,make room for a peaceful 'you'!Let go...be the bigger person!BMF
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I am what I am...
I have my dreams,
I have ambitions
I have aspired
I've stayed inspired
I have walked, stumbled,
But rose again...
Quitters ain't winners
Am resolute, because I am strong,
I am no victim,
I am a survivor,
I am a conqueror...
I believe, I am hopeful,but mostly,
I am faithful
I believe in a Higher Supremacy,
My Creator,my Guardian!
I am just like you...
I am only human!BMF