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Practical steps -How To Keep Going When All You want To Do Is Quit

Excerpts from , with additional input from me…

  • Get out of your negative space- Leave where and when that feeling sets in for a place you feel relaxed and un-pressured. Think of somewhere you can go, or someone you can be with to lift your spirit-a good distraction.
  • Keep yourself busy- "An idle hand, they say is the devil's workshop". Get busy with something different. Do activities that you enjoy, and which takes your mind off worries. Develop a hobby, if you do not have one already. You'd be surprised how therapeutic it can be.
  • Don't hide from the people you know- This may be a tough choice, but avoiding the people you know doesn't send your problems away. Rather, face them and let that be the motivation you need to not quit. Don't be invisible. If you want to carry on, your presence must be felt. Not everyone wants to see your downfall, there are still some good people out there. So don't throw away the baby with the bath water.
  • Break your goal into small achievable objectives- It makes it easy to notice your success. Afterall, they do say great things start from small beginnings. Don't be too proud to start small.
  • Avoid feeling guilty-Guilt cannot undo what's already been done. It is a distraction you do not need. Learn from your mistakes and move on and work towards the future. So keep moving.
  • Remember why you started- Did you have a passion for what you were doing? Was the choice circumstantial? Was it just for financial gain? If you can answer these questions honestly, then you're on your way to bouncing back.
  • Keep your families and friends around- Do not buy into the cliché of "Trust no one". You've got to trust someone at some point. If you avoid your families and friends, who then would you surround yourself with? They are the ones who will stand by you through the dark times, and remain with you when the good times return. You may as well keep them around for both seasons.




<<School-Of-H*a*r*d-K*n*o*c*k*s>>Truth may be bitter, but needs to be told-{Words-That-Bite-Series}

We usually blame people under whose care we were trained and modelled, for our troubles or wrong turns in life. But here's the harsh, candid truth- there's an expiry date for blaming anyone for your troubles. You cannot blame your parents for life, if they failed to raise you well. You cannot blame your guardians and or anyone who was supposed to look after you till adulthood and beyond. If you're old enough to comprehend what am saying, then you're old enough to make your own life choices. You can become a better person from how you were born, where you were raised and who raised you-the onus is on YOU! Take responsibility for your decisions and actions. Take charge of your life. Move past your 'past'...Don't stay still, keep moving! -BMF


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